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For many women oral sex on a man is a more personal experience than intercourse, many times it actually requires a long term relationship. For a lot of women it requires a relationship and a special occasion i.e. birthdays and anniversaries. What Dan tried to say was that within our lovely relationship we talked the matter over and eventually he is getting what he so much like, but in the process respect me as a woman and his wife.
Let us make no mistake, I have no problem with it, it is only the swallowing part and that is where he is not forcing me – I asked him that when he is nearing climax not to push the back of my head to force me on his penis with the result that I can not withdraw and therefore have to take the full load in my mouth. Since I asked him not to do it, he never did it once and I have freedom to withdraw his penis from my mouth when he starts to climax.
The question of swallowing a man’s semen may become a stumble point, while men find this a powerful visual stimulation and extremely arousing experience. If you don't want to swallow his sperm, you can suggest your partner ejaculating on other parts of you body like breasts. Talk it over with your man! I did and it worked.
Whilst writing about this sensitive issue, I thought about a joke I read relating to this issue and I want to share it with you:
A husband and wife and their two sons are watching TV. She looks at her husband and winks at him, he gets the message and says, "Excuse us for a few minutes boys; we're going up to our room for a little while." Pretty soon one of the boys becomes curious, goes upstairs and sees the door to his parents’ bedroom is ajar. He peeks in for a few minutes, trots downstairs, gets his little brother and takes him up to peek into the bedroom. "Before you look in there," he says, "keep in mind this is the same woman who punished us just for sucking our thumbs."
..don’t cause a traffic accident every time they bend over in public
..always look younger
..find that dribbled food makes it to the napkin on their lap
..can always see their toes and shoes
..can sleep on their stomachs
..have no trouble sliding behind the wheel of small cars
..know that people can read the entire message on their t-shirts
..can come late to a theatre and not disrupt an entire aisle
..can take aerobic class without running the risk of knocking themselves out.
Today I went to the local mall – the first time in many weeks. As usual I was fascinated by the hustle and bustle of this social phenomenon. But what was extraordinary was the women of all ages showing some flesh and cleavage. Breasts were popping and hopping and so was the eyes of the men – popping and hopping as they indulged themselves in breasts, beautiful breasts everywhere. I think it was the beautiful warm weather we were experiencing the past week that made women wore more revealing clothes than usual.
I myself do not like the word breast. I let me think of chicken breasts you buy at the Colonel’s franchise on the corner for supper. I like the word titties, when small, and tits when big. But, to get back to my story. I always enjoy the attention titties receive from men. Whether it is exposed or snuggled in some nice underwear. What is amusing is how a man walking with either his wife or girl friend try to “eye follow” woman passing them with obvious beautiful titties. Very self-conscious and very afraid of being caught by his companion.
So, yesterday observing all this titty-watching, I thought by myself, “what would women be without titties having a sexual connotation?” In my library of quotes and good sayings, I found the following interesting observation of Jonathan Carroll on titties:
“Women are always complaining about men's fascination with breasts. But what if men were absolutely indifferent to breasts? What would women do then with these things that serve one function once or twice in a lifetime, and the rest of the time are just in the way?”
It makes on think, doesn’t it?
Back to breasts and titties. Why don’t hens have titties? Because roosters do not have hands or lips!
Imagine my hands holding you,
my body close and warm;
holding you tight and safe and cocooned,
until the light of dawn.
Your head resting against me,
all the night long,
heaven together, bodies attuned,
so sweet in evensong.
To hold close in comfort
in loving caress,
to touch the softest of touches,
pure lightness.
To smile and behold a smile,
eyes loving in tenderness,
to love together,
now and forever,
emotionally breathless....
By Melissa Rowley
Friendship isn't always easily described. The Eskimos, they say, have a hundred different words for snow. Unfortunately, the English language isn't quite as innovative, though it has vast opportunities to differentiate meaning. Certainly, Love is one of those opportunities. And so, too, is Friendship.
Instead of different words, however, we're stuck with simple adjectives. Close friend. Best friend. Childhood friend. Intimate friend. Trusted friend. Beloved friend. But whether you use adjectives or different words, few could deny the nearly infinite meaning in such a simple word.
Friends are special people. We can't pick our family, and we're sorely limited in the number of them at any rate. Society and mores (and often our own conscience) dictate we select a single mate. But our friends can be as diverse and infinite as the adjectives we choose. Our friends, in a very real sense, reflect the choices we make in life.
As the Internet grows and becomes a part of our lives, it brings with it a unique opportunity to meet people we likely would never have met in any other way. And very often, those people we meet on line will become friends. Sometimes, very close friends.
I want to share this poem with all of you:
across the miles
you touched my life,
opened my eyes, and
filled my empty heart-
strangers, yet friends,
our spirits reach out,
always touching, never apart- -
you in the east,
me in the west,
never together,
never apart- -
Spend an evening preparing a romantic dinner together. Set some melodic music to play gentle in the background as you prepare food together and indulge in a glass of wine. Relax and take pleasure in the culmination of your combined efforts. Linger at the table until the last drop of wine has kissed your lips and stare deeply into each other’s eyes. Challenge your mate to hold your gaze simply by the intensity caught within your eyes. Share a slice of dessert on the same plate and take time to feed each other the delicious delight. As you meal concludes, kick off your shoes (and may be more) and hold each other close as you begin to slow dance in the living room…
The rest is for your own imagination and wildest dreams!
If your man usually turns around and snoozes after sex, send him these tips on how to romance you after the act...
It's that precious period between the end of sex and the time you either nod off or get dressed and leave. And what most guys don't realise is that they can gain maximum brownie points by using your mood to their advantage. Because women are at their most vulnerable immediately after sex when their guard is lowered, they're feeling completely relaxed and loved.
Post-coital romancers that will make you weak at the knees
1. Up close and personal
It's fabulous when he doesn't just roll over and turn his back on you to sleep. It would be even better if he gives you soft kisses on neutral parts of your body – shoulder, forehead – and pulls you close for a loving caress or cuddle.
2. Pillow talk
This is the time for intimate conversation which will pave the way for future success. It would be great if told you how fabulous the sex was and what a turn-on you are. And if he asks you about your dreams and ambitions then he's definitely a keeper!
3. Generosity
Although you're probably happy just lying in his arms, imagine how special it would be if he offered to make you a drink or coffee or bring you something sweet while you lay in bed.
4. Watch a video
After sex, while you're both feeling warm and snugly, is the perfect time to bond over romantic comedy.
5. A future arrangement
If you aren't "officially" dating, one way to make you feel special and wanted is by asking you out on your next date while you are lying in each other's arms in the post-coital afterglow.
Dance has been described as a non verbal communication. It is a body language that expresses itself without having said anything. Belle dance, break dance, hip hop or ballroom dance whatever the form all are a way of expressing different emotions and at the same time a good source of entertainment. Dance is an excellent way of conveying your feelings as well as letting out all the emotions buried inside you. It is a good exercise for the body. It keeps your body flexible and fit. Dance is good both for the body and the brain. So why not dance when it is advantageous.
Couples should always indulge into some kind of dance as it is important for them. Dancing for couples is a first-class way to be together, enjoy each others company and at the same time a good technique for exercising. In this busy world couples hardly find time to enjoy each others company especially when it is no more new and fresh. As the time passes by and a relationship grows old the responsibilities grow and couples very comfortable in the company of each other. They let things go as they are, prefer the normal routine of going to work, returning home, eating and going off to sleep with little or no other activity. This kind of routine makes a relationship dreary and desolate since there is no excitement. Dancing is a good option to make a relationship enjoyable.
How to dance when you really don’t know it? Well not a big deal. You do not have to be a perfect dancer. Get some dance videos and practice those steps. Try following the easier steps and once you get them you won’t need the videos. This is because you get into the rhythm and your body becomes flexible and as such you are able to get your own dance steps. If you want to be a perfect dancer then you could join a dance school and become a perfect dancer. If you are not keen in becoming a perfect dancer you can still go for it to get excitement and entertainment in your life. You do not have to go to a dance club as you can create your own dance hall in your house. You do not need much space. Just shift some of the furniture in a corner and make sufficient space to dance. Dancing shoes are not required you can dance bare footed as it is your own house. Then put on some dance music and dance together. Dance in whichever form you feel like. If you feel romantic put on some light music and do the ball dance and if you loaded with to much of energy then go for some bubbly number and dance to the notes.
Dancing in such a manner makes your life thrilling and lively. You do not feel like one of those dull couples who feel that there is no charm left in their married life and are just dragging their life.

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